Cuddling, sleeping, feeding. That’s what it’s all about in the first few months. Your baby is also learning a lot as you spend time together every day. Her brain is growing and developing as she sees, hears and touches the world around her.
Your baby might be able to follow your face with his eyes. Around this age faces are the most interesting thing to your baby. He’ll also like looking at toys with contrasting colours like red, black and white. Your baby will enjoy toys with faces or patterns like swirls or checks.
Your one-month-old can hear you and knows your voice, but she might sometimes startle when she hears you or another sound. Although eye contact is one way your baby tells you he wants your attention, your baby communicates with you mostly through crying. For example, he’ll cry or make throaty noises if he needs you.
Your baby might lift her head briefly when she’s lying on her tummy or turn it to the side when she’s lying on her back. This helps her see where you are and what’s around her. Sometimes your baby will hold your finger, but most of the time he’ll keep his hands in a tight fist.
Helping newborn development at 0-1 month
Here are a few simple things you can do to help your newborn’s development at this age:
- Spend time with your baby: try reading and telling stories, talking and singing. Doing these things every day also helps your baby get familiar with sounds and words. In turn, this develops language and communication skills she’ll need when she’s older.
- Look into your baby’s eyes: if your baby is looking at you, look back. This is important for bonding with your baby. When your baby looks away, he’s letting you know he’s had enough and needs a rest.
- Smile at your baby: when your baby sees you smile, it releases natural chemicals in her body. This makes her feel good, safe and secure. It also helps build attachment to you.
- Play with your newborn: this helps your baby’s brain to grow and helps him learn about the world. It also strengthens the bond between the two of you.
- Give your baby tummy time: 1-5 minutes of play on her tummy each day builds your baby’s head, neck and upper body strength. Your baby needs these muscles to lift her head, crawl and pull herself up to stand when she’s older. Always watch your baby during tummy time and put her on her back to sleep.
- Try baby massage: baby massage is a great way to bond with your baby. It can also be relaxing and soothing if your newborn is cranky.
- Sometimes your baby won’t want to do these things – for example, he might be too tired or hungry. He’ll use special baby cues to let you know when he’s had enough and what he needs.
Newborn crying and how to respond
- Sometimes you’ll know why your baby is crying. When you respond to crying – for example, by feeding your baby if she’s hungry – she feels more comfortable and safe.
- Sometimes you might not know why your baby is crying, but it’s still important to comfort him. You can’t spoil your baby by picking him up, cuddling him, or talking to him in a soothing voice.
- But lots of crying might make you feel frustrated, upset or overwhelmed. It’s OK to take some time out until you feel calmer. Put your baby in a safe place like a cot, or ask someone else to hold her for a while. Try going to another room to breathe deeply or call a family member or friend to talk things through.
- Never shake a baby. It can cause bleeding inside the brain and likely permanent brain damage.
- It’s OK to ask for help. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the demands of caring for your baby, call your local Parentline. You might also like to try our ideas for dealing with anger, anxiety and stress.
These are some factors to keep in mind.